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Second Wives

kps — Tue, 29 Apr 2008 20:21:19 GMT

http://tribes.tribe.net/secondwives

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yay for stepdaughter!!

Etta — Mon, 15 Oct 2007 21:11:09 GMT

Hey, just wanted you to know that my stepdaughter was voted homecoming queen (or princess) for our local recreation league. I'm so proud of her, she's really made quite a transition this past summer from not caring too terribly much about appearance to being homecoming queen. I wish I had a digital camera so I could post pics of my kids...maybe Santa Claus will bring me one. I'm tired of only having one photo on my home page.

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How does the bio-parent feel about you?

InnerSeeker — Sun, 30 Sep 2007 22:26:02 GMT

In my last relationship with a married man and his child, the bio-mom and I got along wonderfully!! It was really incredible. But in the relationship I am in now, the bio-mom wants nothing to do with us, and would be happier if we didn't exist at all. We try to do everything we can to encourage getting along, but to no avail. Now we just focus on the kiddo, as that is the most important thing anyway. And we do everything to make her life as peaceful as possible in regards to the divorce and having two families to contend with.

How about the rest of you? What is your experience? And how do you deal with it?

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How long have you been a STEP?

MamaLoca — Sun, 25 Jan 2004 16:49:24 GMT

11 years here.

2 mine, 2 his.

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Spiritual Step Parenting

InnerSeeker — Sun, 30 Sep 2007 22:37:20 GMT

Hello all,
I created a new tribe for step parents:

http://tribes.tribe.net/spiritualstepparenting

Please come check it out! And join!

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Some thoughts on Blended Families

MamaLoca — Sun, 11 Feb 2007 13:08:24 GMT

As time goes by I have come to the conclusion that dispite our best efforts and intentions things will turn out the way they turn out. Children grow up, family dynamics change and all the things we stressed about one year are irrelivent the next.

I became a step parent in 1992, some 15 years ago, I fretted and fussed, felt holier than thou and totally inferior, cursed and cried. And I don't know that any of it did any good or harm. I don't know if I would have done any differently either, knowing what I know now.

These are just some of my observations:

* The other parent isn't always as evil as we would like to believe.

* Sons and Step-dads tend to be rivals.

* Daughters and Step-Moms tend to be rivals.

* Dispite our best efforts we do make a difference.

* All these observations may be a crock of s^%* in your situation.

In the end it helps to remember the Golden Rule. Treat others as you WANT to be treated.

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am I a wicked step mom?

ShelleyAnn — Wed, 14 Dec 2005 02:06:48 GMT

I have 3 step-daughters ages 8,10 and 15. My daughter is 16 and my son who no longer lives at home is almost 20 . My problem is this... my husband and I have bought x-mas gifts and I think they should not be taken back and forth from our home to their mothers home. First of all they dont keep track of their things and their mother thinks everything is a free for all and could care less if things get broken or lost. She also doesnt live all that clean and we dont get along. I think she is a bad mother. I keep the girls clean at our home and she doesn't even bathe them. I do their hair and try to instill values in them. I think all the toys we buy them shoud stay here so they have things to do on the weeks we have them . We have shared custody one week with us and one week with her...help my husband doesn't agree....
shelley the evil step-mom

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Are you a big, blended family??

Lauren — Fri, 10 Nov 2006 17:45:07 GMT

Hi,

My name is Lauren and I found you all while researching blended families. This seems like a great online community, and I'm hoping you all might be interested! … I think this is a fun, family project ...

I’m conducting a cross country search for families who, in some way, resemble the Brady Family from the classic TV show "The Brady Brunch"--large blended/stepfamilies learning to live together under one roof. It's certainly not as easy as it looked on "The Brady Bunch!" I myself grew up in a blended family, so I know it can be a lot of work! But part of why I'm excited about our show is that it's looking for REAL families. There do need to be some basic "Brady" similarities, but mostly we're just looking for families with big personalities, who think they'd have fun with this!

The show is called "Your Reality" and it will air on TV Land. It's a family-appropriate, good-natured show where we look for the "real life" versions of classic TV sitcoms.

Your family doesn’t have to match the Bradys perfectly, you just need to have some things in common. There can be one son and two daughters, three sons and one daughter, you can even be two or three daughters – any combo works! We want fun, outgoing families who like the possibility of being on TV (and winning some money!).

If you think you might be our family, please drop me an email at yourreality.casting@gmail.com. Please be sure to include your contact info and some pictures of you & your family.

(Feel free to drop me an email if you have any questions at all … )

I look forward to hearing from you!

Thanks so much,
Lauren

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Stepson doesn't want to be part of the family

Salem — Sat, 03 Jun 2006 22:24:52 GMT

My husband and I have been married nearly 3 years. He has a 10 year-old son from a previous relationship; I have an 8 year-old daughter from a previous marriage. We fly my stepson once a month across the country to spend a long weekend with us, and he spends 1 1/2 months with us in the summer.

I have done everything in my power to make this little boy comfortable. He has his own bedroom, decorated the way he likes, I buy him clothes, comic books, sign him up for summer camp, make his meals, take him to interesting places-- all the same things I do for my daughter. The problem is he is sullen, cruel, and distant to everyone in the family when he visits. My husband makes many excuses for him because he lives so far away ( he has always lived so far away) and his is integrating into a new family. After three years, though I don't see too much of a change, and my daughter has given up trying to befriend her new sibling. Any thoughts or ideas?

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What you wished you would have known...

Jamie — Tue, 17 Jan 2006 02:07:06 GMT

I was very excited to find a tribe that had such a big part in who I am about to become.
I have been dating a wonderful man for 2 years who has a bueatiful 4 1/2 year old daughter. We are not currently living together, but it will happen this year. Mom at the moment is out of the picture, and I have no idea if that is her final intent or not. I grew up with 2 parents who have been married for 35 years, so I don't have any personal experience in the matter myself except for the last 2 years.
So, what do you wish you would have known about being a step parent?

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What would you do if....

littlehawke — Mon, 03 Oct 2005 19:41:17 GMT

Chris started school 2 weeks into the year when he moved in with us. With the tales of drama from his mother, who is an enormous piece of work I'd rather not discuss, we had no idea what to expect of his school work.

So..... here goes.
Not turning stuff in, not bringing things home, conveniently losing his assignment book that he's to write in everything from every class that was to be done that day either in class or for homework, ( bought him a new one) team meeting with teachers, not following up on the agreements made there, lying to us. not bringing home midterms because he said they weren't out yet......

Here's what we've done...
Taken away tv, video, game and computer privileges until the grades come up above a C. (didn't seem to work because he got an F in Geography and a D in English.) All homework is done before anything else. I organised the team meeting with all the teachers. I picked him up from school the day after he "forgot" his assignment book and rifled through the backpack to find everything.

Today I called for the grades. I am now going to have the teachers put together a list of missing assignments at the end of every week along with his grade through the end of that week and FAX it to me at work. Every Friday. I'm going to try to get syllabus' for each class also.

I am instigating manual yard labor while the weather holds to be done first, then homework, then dinner, then bed. PERIOD. until the grades come up.
Then when it's dark at 4pm, He'll get to do house work.

I do NOT like it when people lie to me. ever. doestn' matter who it is. I won't stand for it. And I'm so angry right now with this kid that I could just scream. As it is, for the last week or three i've done a great deal of crying, not eating, not sleeping and generally not talking to anyone because I just CAN'T.

Any suggestions?

thanks.
LH

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What are your Christmas plans?

rhondalee — Wed, 21 Dec 2005 12:25:13 GMT

What are y'alls plans for Christmas or the Holidays? How do you decide who will get the children for certain holidays?

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I'm no Wicked Step-Mom

MamaLoca — Sun, 25 Jan 2004 16:48:08 GMT

That is, Over all. But, I've had my days.

I've been a Step-Mom for 11 years now. The youngest was 6 and the oldest was 13 when this all started. We've been through it ALL! and I'm here to testify that it was real work to balance the brood and blend a family.

I've always been interested in how birth order influences behavior. Having a blended family mixed all of that up and what a mixture it is. My own pretty much stayed with me the whole time they were in school. His have jumped back and forth between thier mother and us. Such and uproar, adjusting and readjusting according to thier mother's or thier own whims. Years of thinking I was too hard on the Step Kids and hearing my own kids say I was harder on them. Just like the guy who spins the plates on poles. Always moving and readjusting to the situations.

But we have perserviered and the youngest is a Senior in High School and looking to join the Marines.

What's you family makeup? His, Hers, Yours?

How did your birth order change?
My youngest and his oldest ended up smack dab ib the middle.

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